Commitment and Love are marriage builders.

by Norman CsarniMain marriage builders are commitment and love.They always go together. They are two sides of a coin, different but one. They are like inseparable twins; a pair of wings that becomes useless when one is gone. Without commitment, love could not keep marriage longer. Without love, commitment could not make marriage happier.

Commitment and love are marriage builders because they make lasting and happier marriage.

-Well, happy lovers and unmarried partners casually separate because of the absence or lack of commitment in their relationship.

-Arranged married couples, on the other hand, last decades but are not happy because of the absence or lack of love.

As married couples, you should live around these two main marriage builders.

These two main marriage builders are interdependent. The sense of commitment makes love more inspiring. Love makes commitment more enduring. If you do not love your spouse, you would less likely commit in your married life. If you do not commit, you would less likely love your spouse.

Love is indeed the greatest of all. It is however not the most permanent emotion without commitment.

I disagree with The Beatles' song love is all we need. We also need commitment. While love represents our heart, commitment signifies our will and action.

Love alone is not enough, as most unhappy married couples say. We have to act our love. As the euphoric love, often during honeymoon stage, dives down, commitment keeps it at the top or brings it back to the top. When commitment loses its endurance, love pumps it back to life.

Love is not at all we need. Commitment is neither enough. They always should go together, not only in marriage, but also in any relationship.

So, remember your vow. Love and commit to your spouse. It will certainly keep your marriage.

Norman Csarni may be contacted at http://www.buildmymarriage.com or normancsarni@gmail.com

Another marriage builders

by Norman Csarni: :Another marriage builders are openness and honesty.Like love and commitment, they always go together. They are Siamese twins in effective communication for married life. With openness alone, communication is not authentic. With honesty alone, communication is limited. You cannot simply be open if you are dishonest. You cannot also be honest if you are not open. You have to be both for marital communication to be effective.

-Openness and honesty are two marriage builders because they facilitate effective communication. Whether you are the speaker or speaker, they are both essential. They also are interdependent.

-As a speaker, if you openly talk to your spouse with everything about your day without or less of truthfulness, the talk becomes fictional. An honest talk with limited substance can also be too concealing of truthfulness. As a listener, if you are open to anything your spouse says, but dishonest to your feedback, then the talk becomes shallow. An honest yet close and biased listening and feedback can discourage more talks.

Couples should always practice these two marriage builders. You have to be both open and honest. You have to openly tell your spouse of everything with truthfulness. You have to openly listen and honestly share your thoughts and feelings of what your spouse says.

Talk is indeed cheap if they are not open and honest. Talk is also costly if they are not open and honest. Imagine a married life with half-truths. Do they build happy marriages? Do they keep lasting marriages? I do not think so.

So, openly and honestly talk and listen to your spouse. It will keep your ring forever.

Norman Csarni grew up in Hungary, He was 25 years old when he came to the U.S. in 2000, and like many of his predecessors before him, he was in pursuit of the “American dream”. As he passed by the Statue of Liberty, the tears welled up in his eyes as his mind filled with hope for a better life for him and his bride, Victoria.

Norman Csarni may be contacted at http://www.buildmymarriage.com or normancsarni@gmail.com